Monday, March 05, 2007

Lifetime lessons

-Swetha Amit
Often I wonder that, there are several people we encounter in our journey of life. Some stay till our end. Some just accompany us till a certain point after which we are on our own. And some just make their deep impact for that short span of time and disappear only to never to appear again. So what do we learn from this? An analysis of this provided me some thought provoking interpretations.

People come into our life for a reason, season, treason or a lifetime. When someone is in our life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need we have expressed. Such people probably include our parents who are there to hold out our tiny finger to lead us into the bigger steps of our lifelong pathway. Teachers who assist us through difficulty in terms of our studies and later on,spiritually.Doctors who treat us during our physical ailments and psychologists who help us to help ourselves during states of misery. The list just goes on to people including our friends, other family members and acquaintances who have come to assist us through a difficulty, to provide us with guidance and support. They may seem like a Godsend and they are. They are there for the reason we need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on our part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force us to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

This made me realize that some people come into our life for a season. Our turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring us an experience which makes us laugh or cry. They may teach us something we have never done. It may be a conversation with a fellow passenger on an aircraft, bus or train which leaves us spellbound on hearing what they share with us. It might be a relationship which may end amicably or on bitter terms. Whatever it is, they usually give us an unbelievable amount of joy or even inexplicable sorrow. Believe it, it is realistic lesson to help us mould our personality and character into a finer shape along with the help of TIME.

Some people come into our life for treason. They are here to take all the help they need from you and end up stabbing your back. Very hurtful and cold blooded isn’t it? A feeling of being engulfed by betrayal is probably the worst, one could encounter with. In order to be the bigger person here and one should look at this as a chapter of learning a lifetime lesson. A way to move on or LET GO of this baggage is to tell ourselves, we probably owed a long time debt to that betrayer some lifetime back. We are made to suffer for our karmic actions. It’s a realization that we probably have caused such a feeling to some other person that, its come around to us. Not an easy method. But definitely worth a try.

Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. There are very few people who accompany us till our almost end. But no matter what, I have realized that bitter feelings are of no use. Are we going to take anything with us when we leave this earth? Our spiritual encounter indeed is devoid of clinging to past objects or people or any other unwanted baggage for that matter. So what is it that we learn in this birth of ours? To hate those people who have left our side halfway to our destination? Definitely not.

Our job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what we have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of our life. This is till our sole encounter with spiritualism and the other world, where we feel the lightness of our souls bringing about rays of happiness and "light".
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