Friday, December 29, 2006

Sayonara 2006

So long farewell...its time to say goodbye.It just feels like it was the beginning of 2006. And now the yearly journey has come to an end.Like other years,'06 too provided a roller coaster ride,just like the pathway of life's travel.Encounters with good and bad experiences have proved to be lessons done as a diploma course. This enables us to possess a greater degree of strength,courage and confidence which are needed to face the tougher examinations that are just around the corner.

Looking back from the cold winter days of January through the sunny days of March to the scorching heat of May-June,the monsoons in July- August and back to the chilly month of December,seems like glancing through our childhood photo albums to our present day pictures.A year which seems like just 365 days.Yet, the numerous events and changes equalizes this period,close to a unique era of its own.

Walking down the memory lane brings back certain instances, that can be viewed with a happy note and other not so pleasant moments, that have moulded and shaped my personality to that of a firm and solid one.

It was the continuation of my courtship period which was to end on April 30th,marking a beginning of a new phase in life.A feeling of wishing that my fiancee was there to share new year celebrations,engulfed me the whole day.However thinking about the upcoming new years eve,put me in high spirits as I geared up to face this eventful year.

The first quarter from Jan-April was spent in endless shopping for my D day,making a guest list and invitations.Several emotions engulfed me.The realization of no longer being a carefree girl in her parents home dawned upon me.It occured that this lifelong commitment was a different journey altogether,along with a package of shouldering responsibilities and self sufficiency.I felt like a small sapling, branching away from the parental tree,finding my independent roots into the soil of marriage.It was a mixture of joy and a tinge of sadness.Happiness of being united with my soul mate for a lifetime and sadness of leaving my home, where I spent my formative years and the memories associated with it.

The second quarter proved to be one of the difficult tests,at least for me.Post wedding was a whirl.Meeting numerous relatives,hectic schedules,the Tirupathi trip and back and the lack of sleep was taking a toll on me. I couldnt wait to board the flight to Maldives to enjoy my honeymoon.This island getaway proved to be a wonderful trip that helped me and my husband revitalise ourselves from the madness of the big fat Indian wedding.As I was looking forward to going to Mumbai,where we were settling down ,to set up a new unexpected turn of events caused a temporary separation from my life partner for almost a month.

I lost my maternal grandad....a man of class and very few words.I stayed back in Chennai and provided a support system to my grandmom,mom,aunt and my little cousins.A turbulent of emotions struck me....sadness of losing my grandad,regret of not having spent much time with him when I had the chance to,disappointment of not being able to go with my husband(and wasnt sure when...thanks to the so called tradition of seeing a good date) and stressed out,as I juggled between by place and inlaws' over weekends,who were very understanding and supportive.However,it wasnt easy handling so many things at the same time.But I pulled through it and emerged as a stronger person.My patience was rewarded when I left to the maximum city in june.

Rains welcomed me as I landed and looked at this much hyped city with interest.It seemed that Mumbai and I just struck the right chord from the very beginning as I stepped into this busy location.It was the time of the monsoons.Pitter patter raindrops touching the roads with their gentle pour looked a pretty sight.As I set up my new home and was in the phase of settling down,I realized to my surprise that I hardly missed home.The maximum city just charmed me to an extent that made me want to explore it even more.I felt I had lived here all my life.Days went by as my independence grew even more.Of course it was a tough time,adjusting to being "married" and dealing with issues that one would never have a given a thought to earlier.But again, it was like one of those complex chapters in a book.

The last quarter was exciting.Explored a lot of hill stations that amazed me with their natural beauty.Did numerous travelling that enabled me to learn about new places and their history.Discovered my new passion for writing too.The travel included couple of visits to Chennai.One visit was to attend a wedding which was another test put to me.It took an effort to put on an eternal smiling face to the sea of faces some of which were scrutinising me as the newly wed bride of the family.It was with the support of the Almighty, that helped me combat certain unwarranted loose talks from individuals of the similar age bracket.It also enabled me to emerge as a winner with a no-nonsense personality, whom people learned to respect and regard with awe.It was a year of stabilising various relationships of different genre,maintaining a balance between married life and my social circle.It also involved sorting out a lot of misunderstandings that should have been done in the beginning stages itself.

At the end of it all,peace,satisfaction and contentment is what I have achieved and have managed to sail through the stormy winds that have hurled me in different directions.But without my anchor(my life-partner),I would have never managed to keep afloat on the turbulent waves and would have ended up drowning in the pool of negativity.Looking back at this lane, has helped me realise how much God has stood by me in his own way.Maturity and wisdom has slowly crept into me only to reach the higher levels with due course of time.I have also realised not to take anything and anyone for granted in the future.

Its time now to bid farewell to this rather interesting year and look forward to 2007 and other upcoming years which would make me feel even more that "learning is a continuous process."


Wednesday, December 27, 2006

Brawn khan

Today is Salman khan's b'day.And he turns 42.

Lets wish this "saajan" a gr8 b'day and a year ahead. Inspite of all the flaks hes gotten into he has never made his fans ask"hum aapke hain koun".
His whole family and the film industry has stood by him saying"hum saath saath hai". A style icon who has proved the fact of"andaz apna apna".There can never be another "judwaa".

Yes his million link ups with various pretty faces have made his motto "pyar kiya to darna kya" quite clear. His hits and misses have never affected his saleability "kyonki", salman,hum "tumko na bhool paayenge".

Hes amazing at his romantic roles which never makes me feel "maine pyar kyon kiya" and its time to salute to his love struck roles saying"salaam-e-ishq"! Heres to sallu miya whos been one of my fav actors since his "maine pyar kiya" days.Wishing him a gr8 b'day.!!!!

Cheers to the brawn khan of the industry.


Friday, December 22, 2006

Jingle all the way

Candles with their colourful glow
Prayers said with heads in bow
Santa coming with a hoard of gifts
Child like enthusiasm soars and lifts'
A fairy on top of the christmas tree
Or a patridge on a pear tree.

A toast to the beloved with wine
where the kith n kit sit and dine
Feasting on delicious pies and cake
Made with a hard effort bake.

Its christmas time
A moment to rise and chime
With Reindeers on a continuous play
And the mistletoe n bells in a gentle sway
It is time to jingle all the way.


Wednesday, December 20, 2006

Investing in a Buffet

Warren Buffet was the first man to introduce the concept of "value investing".Known as one of the richest men in the world can get a glimpse of his life in the below write up which I received via email.

Very interesting and overwhelming.Brings to light the down to earth attitude of this starry personality.Couldn't help admiring his point about investing in ourselves to get the best rate of return.

Here's to the Investment Mentor.

There was a one hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity. Here are some very interesting aspects of his life:

1 He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late!

2 He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.

3 He still lives in the same small 3 bedroom house in mid-town Omaha, that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence.

4 He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people around him.

5 He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest private jet company.

6 His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis.

7 He has given his CEO's only two rules.

Rule number 1: do not lose any of your share holder's money.
Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.

8 He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His past time after he gets home is to make himself some pop corn and watch television.

9 .Bill Gates, the world's richest man met him for the first time only 5 years ago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common with Warren Buffet. So he had scheduled his meeting only for half hour. But when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten years and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren Buffet.

10.Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his desk.

11.His advice to young people: Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself.


Sunday, December 17, 2006

Kabul Express-A never ending journey

Ravines,deserts,barrenlands,rifles,tankers and soldiers.

Welcome to the journey of Kabul express.A fast paced travel which takes one through the experiences and underlying emotions of two Indian journalists along with three other co-passengers, leaves one gripping till the end.

This film starts with an introduction of the the country which was closed to the world for 6 years until an occurrence of a certain mishap.Several reporters were known to visit this mysterious land,thirsty for a story that would quench the curious minds of the world.

Suhel Khan(John Abraham) and Jai Kapoor(Arshad Warsi )play the lead as journalists from India who risk their lives to cover a story that would leave the nation spellbound.Little did they know that life would never be the same again after this road less travelled.As they seat themselves on a tanker,eyes and ears are wide open in eagerness to get a glimpse of the much hyped "Talib".Managing to attract a lot of attention,they stumble upon Jessica Beckham(Linda Arsenio),a reporter from New York,whos there for the same purpose.They mount themselves on the vehicle along with their Afgani driver and guide(Hanif Humghum). Soon,they are followed by a certain strange figure, calling himself Imran Khan Afridi(Salman Shahid) who overtakes them with surprise as they are literally kidnapped and forced to turn around to a different pathway of the Pakistan border.

Fear,shock and a little annoyance sets in the minds of the existing passengers.Their new commuter is engaged in a conversation,initiated by Jai which consists of a heated,yet comical and sarcastic arguments over Kapil Dev and Imran Khan's records to the culprits of who started the entire war.This trip brings a twist in tale with encountering a few gun shots and discovering the real identity of their "kidnapper" Imran.He actually was a Major in the Pakistani army, who sacrificed not seeing his daughter for 6 years, in order to fulfill his duty.This unexpected learning brings out a few emotional moments ,in turn, lending a helping hand to their new friend in reaching his destination.So does he finally go home?The climax reveals it all.

This film is one of the brilliant productions of Yash Raj films I have ever seen.It definitely deserves an applaud for the risk taken by the whole crew to shoot this movie, in order to bring about a fantastic product finish for the audiences.It left me on the edge of the seat,from the beginning till its end.The film was a learning experience for me in more than one way.It brought out the lives of the women in Afganistan who were over protected and not given any rights to do as their will.It was indeed a sad plight and made me realise that how progressed we are.Imagine the fear of living amidst the firing of bullets.We are definitely in a safe democratic country.

It brought to light a few touching moments of the father-daughter reunion.The film also finished ironically which made me wonder what are we fighting for.Though the movie ended,Kabul Express is a never ending journey of the numerous wars and exploitation of the innocent lives.Will it ever stop?Time will tell.

Meanwhile,Is film ko Q(K)abul karna,hamare hathon mein hai.!Dekhega Zaroor.


Thursday, December 07, 2006

Future in our hands

Received this via email. Got me thinking about those sad, ignorant people who are under the false impression of housewife or a mom being jobless. The irony here is that no job can be that of a busier one esp. when one is blessed being a mom of one or many. Next time we are asked to fill up such an occupational column, we should probably think of defining the word “mom” or homemaker in an appropriate manner. The write-up below, gives an excellent example of such an instance.

A woman, renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk's office was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself. "What I mean is," explained the recorder, "do you have a job or are you just a......?" "Of course I have a job," snapped the woman.

"I'm a Mom."

"We don't list 'Mom' as an occupation, 'housewife' covers it," said the recorder emphatically. I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient and possessed of a high sounding title like, "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar." "What is your occupation?" she probed.

What made me say it? I do not know. The words simply popped out. "I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and looked up as though she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written, in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire."Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?

" Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, "I have a continuing program of research, [what mother doesn't) in the laboratory and in the field, (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole family) and already have four credits (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities, (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money."

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up and personally ushered me to the door. As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model, (a 6 month old baby) in the child development program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than "just another Mom." Motherhood! What a glorious career! Especially when there's a title on the door.

Wow.Very inspiring. The above story stresses upon the importance of a mother trying to shape up the future citizens of the country, by devoting her time, energy and effort. The productivity here can be determined by the kind of individuals her children grow up to be to make the nation proud. Puts an end to all those inferior thoughts about one not being a career woman.

Just wondering about the definition of the word”Job”.Yes, its something which occupies a person physically and mentally. Of course, rewards are mandatory. But do such rewards restrict only to monetary returns? Not necessarily.

As a specialist in human relations, I definitely feel terms like job satisfaction is an important factor in motivating and stimulating us fellow humans. Whether we work at home, from home or outside home, we definitely are not JOBLESS or less intelligent than any of those corporate individuals.

There are people, who in spite of working in top notch companies complain about having less work, which ultimately get’s them hooked on to the virtual world the whole day. So this certainly removes misconception of only moms or home makers or freelancers logging on to the internet.

Weren’t our moms home makers once a upon a time? What would we have done, if we had to come back to an empty cold house from school/college? When they work, we have complained about less time devoted to us. Otherwise we scorn at them for not being worldly wise or we claim to be ashamed of them. Guess today’s young, unmarried or married working women will realize this, the day motherhood strikes them. What if we are faced with a situation that leaves us so hard pressed for time, that we end up taking up only a part –time or off and on job? Does it make us less enterprising than others?

To summarize this, we needn’t feel inferior or superior no matter what we are doing. As long as our “occupation” brings us happiness and contentment, we are answerable to no one but ourselves.So all the married and unmarried men and women, old aged, middle aged, who look down upon such occupation less people in the future, DO THINK AGAIN! .


Monday, December 04, 2006

A stingy tale(tail)

I came across this tale which is capable of leaving a trail.

A scorpion was trying to cross the river after completing the task of collecting food for her children. As she was debating on how to get to the other side, she incidentally met this jackal who happened to wander by the river side. Seeing her difficulty, the jackal stopped by and offered a ride on his back while he swam across the river. But it was on one condition that the scorpion wouldn’t sting the jackal while cruising.

However, halfway through the journey, the promise was broken as the poisonous sting of the scorpion pierced the jackal to the jaws of death. On questioning this venomous act, the scorpion replied saying” It is my nature to sting. I can’t help it. But why did you help me in spite of knowing my nature?” For which the Jackal replied” It is my nature to help. By stinging me you have destroyed not only me, but also yourself and in the process deprived your children from a healthy living."

An interesting lesson and principle which can be applied to Human Psychology. In the above case, it was a typical scorpion sting as per its nature. In real life situations, we sometimes due to our human NATURE,don't realize that our words can be stinging and pierces like a poisonous sword, wounding the other person's feelings in the process. The above story caused death to both the characters.Similarly, while communicating with people of various genres; do we not KILL relationships with our vindictive remarks?

Think about it.


K...K....K....K....Kaun banega crorepathi

It seems like one mosquito has taken over the B(ee).

Yes,flashing all over the entertainment quarters of the leading news channel is not only the restart of the quizzical programme of Kaun banega crorepathi,but also the replacement by the so called Bollywood Badshah called Shahrukh Khan.

The style and sophistication with with Amitabh Bachchan conducted this brain storming show,has definitely left a trademark of the words,"Sure" ,"confident","lock kar diya jaaye."

A friendly,warm smile of the Big B was just enough to put the nervous participants at ease.

Will SRK do the same?Time will tell.But at present,it seems like a bad replacement.Though a lot of talk is taking place about him being the youth icon which will generate waves and attract a lot more contemporary viewers.

All I can say is Srk will go K....k...k...kaun banega crorepathi.