Wednesday, April 11, 2007

Bachelors pad no longer a fad?

-By Swetha Amit
It appears that the ‘bachelors’ club is losing the eligibility criteria. Yes, this is in relation to the shunning of these single Martians by housing societies in Mumbai. Apparently residential buildings seem to oppose the inhabitance of single men in their buildings considering it as a disturbance with late parties and being 'unsafe’ for the women.

Mumbai is a city of maximum prospects and opportunities for single career oriented men. In addition to which accommodation tends to pose a problem. Ambitious men who dream big come to the island city like charged bulls to make it big before settling down. Not surprising, as the contemporary situation demands the man to earn in 5 figures, to fall into the ‘prospective groom’ category as per the matrimonial columns.

In such a scenario, concentration on career becomes top priority, followed by bagging an apartment in a convenient locality. However such obstructive demeanor by localities’ indeed poses a source of worry of survival for the twenty something guys.

Numerous cases of these young unmarried men asked to vacate/not given accommodation have been reported in the recent times much to their indignation. This differential treatment meted out to them leaves many baffled. Many wonder if they are being punished unreasonably for one odd case occurred earlier. Men only with spouses are handed over the keys to the houses and are considered a safe bet. The ‘safety’ factor leaves one to ponder: Is safety guaranteed only with a woman around?

It’s a terrible misconception about ALL SINGLE men misbehaving and has been exaggerated to a large extent. There have been several instances of married men being a source of nuisance and misbehavior. Is it justified to map on any particular case/event in order to generalize a theory. What is the guarantee of single women or even a couple not throwing wild parties or causing inconvenience to neighbors’? Why the discrimination?

How is a man supposed to work during his bachelor days in a new city without being rendered appropriate accommodation? Is it fair to bring about gender discrimination here? It’s a shame to withhold a place only because of blind illogical suspicions. Trying to protect the fairer sex, results in UNFAIR acts to the opposite gender.

Such unreasonable notions and uncooperative gestures could result in disrupting and discouraging ones future prospects. It is improper to punish the whole clan for a folly created by a few black sheep. It seems like dire straits for single men. We always emphasize the fact of only single women having a difficult time. It appears that, at this rate men will soon join the ‘tough’ club.
Although judgments have been passed out as such acts being illegal, it hasn’t prevented housing societies from indulging in such practices.

It is even more surprising to see such instances and behaviour occurring in a cosmopolitan and tolerant city like Mumbai. Strangers turning into friends during crisis stricken situations are what the city is well-known for and proud of. And not for evading people and render them helpless.

Prolonging the current situation will result in the disappearance of bachelor pads on a permanent basis. Will that lead to an increase in the number of men marrying early ONLY for the need of a home to pursue a career? So, is a guy supposed to tie a knot in order to tie up with residential societies? Or, are they encouraging a "tie-up" without tying the knot?

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Blogger Anshul Agrawal said...

Very true... The same thing happened with us too, when we were trying to find a flat on rent... u may read my post on the same @

12:21 AM  
Blogger Whirlwind said...

@Anshul:Read your post.I completely agree.Its true that while people frown upon live in relationships,they are indirectly advocating it by refusing accomodation for bachelors. I think its extremely dumb and unfair to generalise a theory against a gender due to a few black sheep.

12:26 AM  
Blogger Anshul Agrawal said...

@Whirlwind: yeah, how can these socities generalize these against the Bachelors' coz few of the occupants of the flats have created nuisance in the past ???

1:05 AM  
Blogger Whirlwind said...

Precisely...They are being dumb and over judgemental.

3:36 AM  

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