Friday, May 09, 2008

The perfect beauty

Received this thought provoking write up via email. Imprints its content on to the minds of the readers and leaves a perennial scar on the cognitive aspect,the outcome of which is indeed positive and beautiful.

Beauty, Shining Through
By Lynne Massie

*Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it.
~ Confucius

It was 4 o'clock in the morning on June 9, 2003, when I received the phone call parents’ dread.” This is the emergency room calling and your son was just brought in with severe burns on his face, neck, and arms. We have called for an airlift and are going to fly him to the burn unit in Seattle."

Seattle was 350 miles from his college, so we knew immediately this was serious. The physician described the accident, which caused the burns. At 2 am, our son and his friends decided to barbecue hamburgers in the courtyard of their apartment complex. Not exactly the dinner hour for you and me, but for college students, probably fairly normal.

While they were cooking, an automatic sprinkler system came on, dousing the grill. They dragged the wet grill to another location and attempted to relight it. Doing what most adults know not to do, they squirted lighter fluid directly on the smoldering coals. The grill literally exploded, and, as it ignited, the flames caught my son's shirt tail. With his clothes ablaze, the flames shot from his waist to well over his head.

Fortunately, one of the boys was quick witted, grabbed my son, and rolled him into the sprinkler system. While it saved his life, it was not in time to save him from severe burns and the associated terrible scars. After he recovered from the intense treatments, the doctors told him they would not do plastic surgery for 6 months because it takes that long for the skin to stop shrinking and wrinkling. So, he had to return to college with scars typical of severe burns.

When I was a child, my mother told my sister, who had a 10 inch, very visible and nasty scar on her arm, "Nancy, if you ignore the scar, other people will ignore it. It does not mean they will not notice it, because>they will. But, it means it will not matter to them if it doesn't matter to you.” I passed this wisdom on to my son.” Keaton, no one will pay any more attention to your scars than you do. If they do not bother you, they will not bother others." He took my advice to heart and returned to school with his head held high -- glad he was alive.

By the end of the six-month waiting period, he decided that the scars did not matter and did not define who he was. So he made the decision to forgo any plastic surgery. We all have scars and flaws that we believe cause people to shun us. And we>spend a lot of time thinking that if only we looked differently, or dressed differently, or could have more money, or a different and newer car, people would like us better.

But you see, like Keaton's scars, people will only judge you by your looks, or your clothes, or your car, IF you are judging yourself by these same false standards. One of my friends in college was as ugly as homemade sin and yet, when>people met him, they noticed his looks for about 10 seconds. This man felt good about himself as a person and spent most of his time concerned about other people's comfort and welfare. It never seemed to occur to him he would be rejected because of his looks -- and he wasn’t. What people saw was his kindness, his concern for them, and his sense of humor. They never noticed his looks because he set the standard himself. He didn't act "ugly" so people didn't treat him as "ugly".

What about your scars and flaws? Do you let them define who you are? Do you really believe that other people care about what is only on the surface? Or are you able to look beneath your skin and see the beautiful person residing within? Today put your imperfections out of your mind and concentrate on what you value within yourself. Because if you can see that beautiful person, every one you come in contact with will see the same beauty.

*Let your beauty shine through.*



Anonymous Mukundhan said...

I completely agree with the article. Looks don't matter. It is the blind, the deaf, the physically and mentally challenged that lend variety to this otherwise dull world. We are all different flowers in a flower garden. A rose cannot be compared with lily. Hence, we cannot conclude that rose is superior.

We spend half of lives trying to please others and worrying what others think of us. What we fail to understand is "What we think of ourselves is more important than what others think of us".

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Blogger Whirlwind said...

@Mukundhan:Very True.I believe that more than physical its the psychological scars which gets imbedded deep in an individual. While the latter set of people overcome such wounds and emerge as confident beings,it certainly is an inspiration for those who are busy nursing the physical scars to do the same.

9:22 PM  

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